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Sexy Window Observations

October 30th, 2008

Focus Text: Proverbs 7: 5-27 (NLT)

 5 Let them protect you from an affair with an immoral woman,
      from listening to the flattery of a promiscuous woman.

 6 While I was at the window of my house,
      looking through the curtain,
7 I saw some naive young men,
      and one in particular who lacked common sense.
8 He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman,
      strolling down the path by her house.
9 It was at twilight, in the evening,
      as deep darkness fell.
10 The woman approached him,
      seductively dressed and sly of heart.
11 She was the brash, rebellious type,
      never content to stay at home.
12 She is often in the streets and markets,
      soliciting at every corner.
13 She threw her arms around him and kissed him,
      and with a brazen look she said,
14 “I’ve just made my peace offerings
      and fulfilled my vows.
15 You’re the one I was looking for!
      I came out to find you, and here you are!
16 My bed is spread with beautiful blankets,
      with colored sheets of Egyptian linen.
17 I’ve perfumed my bed
      with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
18 Come, let’s drink our fill of love until morning.
      Let’s enjoy each other’s caresses,
19 for my husband is not home.
      He’s away on a long trip.
20 He has taken a wallet full of money with him
      and won’t return until later this month.

 21 So she seduced him with her pretty speech
      and enticed him with her flattery.
22 He followed her at once,
      like an ox going to the slaughter.
   He was like a stag caught in a trap,
23 awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart.
   He was like a bird flying into a snare,
      little knowing it would cost him his life.

 24 So listen to me, my sons,
      and pay attention to my words.
25 Don’t let your hearts stray away toward her.
      Don’t wander down her wayward path.
26 For she has been the ruin of many;
      many men have been her victims.
27 Her house is the road to the grave.
      Her bedroom is the den of death.


Stop Here and Reflect Before Reading Ahead

Today, I’m deliberately reflecting upon a much larger passage than usual because it makes more sense in context to read the whole section together.  In these verses, Solomon paints a vivid story of a young man’s demise through his decision to succumb to sexual temptation.  Two things instantly jump out at me about this passage.  

The first observation is that this story could have easily been the screenplay for any WB or Fox teenage drama on television today.  Solomon was a good writer and his depiction of this young lady’s alluring ways is quite effective.  You can almost smell her perfume.  Sidebar disclaimer: I again encourage you to remember the author (a dad) and the audience (a son) when looking for reasons as to why only the immoral woman is discussed in this passage.  It could just as easily be describing an immoral man . . . although he might look a little funny in her seductive clothing.

Seduction is big business.  It is literally a marketing strategy for sports, automobiles, and even mammoth Hardees thickburgers . . . yeah, real seductive.  Sexy is the goal because everybody knows that everybody else is interested in sex.  So, thirteen year-olds and thirty year-olds alike find their entertainment in shows and movies where premarital sex is commonplace and seduction is an art form that everyone should learn. It’s as if Solomon’s window was the television of his time.  He watched as a young man lost his way by the same temptation that so many young men and women lose their ways today.  This was his soap opera.

The second observation comes from verse thirteen: “She threw her arms around him and kissed him and with a brazen look she said, ‘I’ve just made my peace offerings and fulfilled my vows.  You’re the one I was looking for!  I came out to find you, and here you are!'”  I don’t know if you’re catching what she’s saying, but it sounds as if she is just coming from a religious experience.  A “peace offering” would have been offered at the temple to atone for one’s sins.  She even references her “vows” as she attempts to convince the young man to help her break her vows to her husband.

Here’s a woman who just came from church, for lack of a better term, and is using her recent forgiveness as justification to continue doing that which is wrong.  What does this reveal to us?  It demonstrates that religious formalities and ceremonies do nothing to change one’s heart.  A religious experience devoid of a heart transformation is meaningless.  The real problem lies in her own statement: “You’re the one I was looking for!”

The misguided woman was looking for the wrong person!  Her religious ceremonies had apparently not brought her any closer to finding out who God was . . . much less meet Him personally.  She just came from God’s house, but in her heart she was looking for someone else.

That’s where sexual temptation can so easily derail us.  Sexual desires in and of themselves are not evil; no, they are designed by a very creative Creator.  The question is: “who are are looking for?”  In our relationships.  On our dates.  In our thoughts.  In our marriages.  When we continue to seek God, every area of our life will be healthier, more fulfilling, and even more logical.  Logical?  Consider this.  This particular woman had been “been the ruin of many.”  That means that this wasn’t her first seduction.  If that were the case, apparently what she was getting did not complete what was lacking in her life.  Or else, why keep looking for happiness in the same place?

Sexual fulfillment is like any other area of life– it’s only found when we search for Him first.  So just like Solomon, when we look through the “windows” of our televisions, movies, or possibly our real lives, may we recognize the path of destruction that sexual immorality blazes.  The good news is that we don’t have to tread it.  There’s another path waiting for us.  

A little more narrow.  A little less-traveled.  A little more difficult to hike.  But worth the detour.


seth wharton
October 30th, 2008 at 12:17 pm

i agree totally one hundred percent! our culture today is filled with tons of sexual commercials and tv shows, even on some of the kids channles that my two younger brothers watch “!He followed her at once,
like an ox going to the slaughter” i think this kind of hit me like a ton of bricks because if you think about it the man knew what he was doing and he knew that it was going to cost him his life, but he still went ahead and did it anyway! solomon was a very wise man who shared great wisdom with not just his son but all of us so that we may avoid the “window observations” of daily life.

Janet Henry
October 30th, 2008 at 8:17 pm

How great it would be to one day tell your husband or wife, everything I am is yours….I gave myself to no one. I stayed on the road less traveled. God WILL reward your faithfulness to purity.

How sad it is when so many have to say to their husband or wife… I have given myself to one or many and this is all I have left, you get the leftovers. How sad that your husband or wife get all that you have left and not all that God intended you to be.

How awesome is our God that he can restore you to be whole again and help commit your way so that you stay on that road less traveled. Make a promise to Him today. Make a promise to your future husband or wife today.

Kennah Mathews
October 31st, 2008 at 12:35 am

We have to really know who God is. We have to have the desire to grow closer to him. God will fulfill our desires more than we could ever imagine when we make right decisions when it comes to sexual immorality. The one God created for us is so valuable to God, and when we eventually meet him or her they will be valuable to us. We want the best for our future spouse, and what is partly the best is saving ourselves for him or her too. We cannot be blind; follow God’s path and he will give you HIS vision. Ours is blurred, and not clear especially when we are tempted. That’s just our human nature. When we can connect with God, our sight becomes a lot clearer.


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